Anita Oyakhilome's 2015 advise to Nigerians after messy break up with Pastor Chris

Anita Oyakhilome, the ex-wife of the founder of Christ Embassy Church, Pastor Chris Oyakhilome has said she had tolerated abuse for a long time in her marriage to the clergyman.

This was contained in her 2015 self-titled blog, www.pastoranita.org, where she wrote about life-burning issues ranging from marriage to relationships as well as finance.

The Nations reports that the duo who were in a messy break-up have now finalized their divorce after months of speculation.

Anita and her hubby fell apart after the former claimed the latter was unable to hide his third leg from female members.

Subsequently, the ministry pulled down her profile from the church website, a development that shows all was not well with the family.

Interestingly, few months after ‘things fell apart; Anita found solace in blogging, an avenue she’s been using to inspire those who are facing marital challenges and difficulties in life.

MyNigeria stumbled on the welcome message she posted on the online portal, which suggests her marriage to the Edo-born preacher was not rosy.

Hear her: “Life is a gift from God and you deserve to be happy irrespective of your age, race, gender, background or financial situation. I urge you to appreciate the gift you are, you are precious and valuable. Never lose sight of who you are; begin to create new visions and dreams for your life. Let nothing stop you from growing every day.

“My story is not one of a bed of roses, far from it but I had a choice to either beat myself over the regret of tolerating abuse for so long or put a stop to the abuse and recreate my life for the best. My journey was not in vain. I can now help others realise that their situation does not define them. In order to move on with life, I have come to realise that nothing is permanent. Your problem is not permanent; you can do something to change it by ensuring you do not allow the situation or the person make your life miserable. Pain is a fact of life, it is inevitable but suffering is optional. You can do something to change the pain by over looking every obstacle, take control as a force of nature to grow and expand. Do what is necessary now to use the gift God has given you to unleash your purpose.

“Do not allow anybody destroy you or rob you of living a joyful life. Your life is not wasted; you have just started a different phase of life. God will show you how to use your testimony to help others and restore their lives to exuberance. Please join me to encourage and inspire others. You have a story to tell, you can contribute and participate in the dialogues here. Let us all learn from one another’s experience and reach others with the gift of love and kindness. Share your experience by emailing me or making a comment. Celebrate your uniqueness because there is only one of you,” she wrote.