Why I friend-zoned my husband before marriage – Adesua Etomi

Actress-cum-singer Adesua Etomi-Wellington revealed that she had friend-zoned her colleague, Bankole Wellington aka Banky W, for a year and a half before accepting his marriage proposal.

According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, friend-zoned is a state of friendship in which one’s romantic or sexual interest in someone is not reciprocated.

Susu as she’s fondly called stressed the significant role of friendship in establishing the foundation of a lasting relationship.

During service on Sunday, September 18, at the Waterbrook Church where they worship, she outlined three reasons that promoted her decision to friend-zone Banky W at the time.

She said: “I would like to say that friendship plays a very big role in laying the foundation of your relationship. I friend-zoned my husband for a year and a half [laughs].

“I friend-zoned him for two reasons. One, I wasn’t sure that I had heard from God about whether this person was actually my person. Actually, three reasons.

“Second, marrying Banky W [laughs]. I was like, ‘My life on my own is chaotic enough, I would now marry Banky? No, no, no.’

“And then thirdly, just trying to at least have a friendship. And I honestly believe that the friendship we laid over a year and a half has played a very big role in how our relationship is today.

“Banky W is my guy. I mean if you take away romance and s3x and everything that makes a marriage, he would still be my guy. Banky is my best friend.”

Banky W interjected: “No, leave s3x. Don’t take it away [laughs].”

In a star-studded ceremony in Lagos on November 19, 2017, Banky W and Adesua Etomi exchanged vows after mesmerising movie lovers with their on-screen romance in the film titled, “The Wedding Party”.

In January 2021, the celebrity welcomed the first child, Hazaiah.

They shared the news on Monday, February 23, 2021, which was also Adesua’s birthday that their son arrived four weeks before the announcement was made.

They flooded the internet with charming photos, revealing Adesua’s baby bump alongside the words: “You have a track record of keeping your word. Ọlọrun agbaye o, you are mighty. 4 weeks ago I received the best birthday gift ever. Our Son. 1+1=3 ??? #Godisforeverthegreatest #mamaZ.”